There is a hockey writer in Canada, Elliotte Friedman. Every week during the hockey season, he writes a blog post called, “31 Thoughts”, wherein he writes one thought about every single NHL team for the week. This could be about how the team is performing, what they could improve, whatever about the team.
Well. I’m turning 26 today. And as I’ve thought about year 25, I thought it might be fun to do a “30 Thoughts” about myself, and what I’ve learned, need to improve on, or realized in the past year.
- Buying a car? Surprisingly easy.
- Applying to go back to school? Surprisingly easy.
- Realizing having your life “figured out” is actually kind of a myth–at any age.
- But wait. That’s okay. Completely okay.
- “It’s not whether you get knocked down; it’s whether you get up.” -Vince Lombardi
- I’m probably doing better than I think I am.
- Being kind to yourself is paramount over anything else.
- Heartbreak and heartache will happen. It’s best to just embrace it and move on. That doesn’t mean it’s easy.
- If you’re not happy, speak up. To the right people. Chances are, they don’t know you aren’t happy, and will do everything in their power to help out.
- I can do hard things.
- The people you meet at race tracks are some of the nicest people. You will become fast friends with them. They will share everything with you, their life story, their snacks, their binoculars, their time. This is because they are happy. Race fans that actually go to race tracks are the most passionate about the sport. If you find yourself at a race track, you are one of those stupidly happy, grinning from ear to ear people. Embrace it.
- Take more pictures, but don’t be excessive about it.
- Don’t Instagram all of them.
- Tell the people in your life you love them. Those who know will be happy to hear it, those who don’t know will be happy you told them.
- Don’t be afraid to cut people out of your life. If someone isn’t supporting you or being a friend, if someone is a drag on your well-being, then cut them out. It is okay to reevaluate those with whom you spend your time. Actually, it is more than okay, that is recommended.
- Traveling is a lot of fun. Do that more often.
- Stand your ground, even if it is hard.
- After taking inventory of the people in your life, and clearing house, as it were, take inventory of the physical things you have, and pare those down, too.
- Be kind to everyone. My dad once told me, “You have to be nice to everyone’s face, but you don’t have to like them.” Yeah, what my dad said.
- Say no to bad dates who try to ask you out again. It’s not worth having two bad date stories.
- It is not your responsibility how others perceive you. It is your responsibility to be kind to them, and to treat them the way you would want to be treated.
- Heavenly Father and Christ will never give up on you. Not even for a minute.
- If you fail at something one day, and have to do it again then next, you don’t have to start at the very beginning, you can start where you are.
- Over the past few months at work, I have had a lot of people tell me how much they like me, and how integral I am to not only their team(s) but the company in general. While this was nice validation, I started to wonder how it happened. And then I realized, it is because I am kind, hard working, and reliable. I am smart, and therefore people like having me around. It’s a good feeling, and one I hope to carry to every workplace I am placed into.
- Life will suck sometimes; trials will happen. It will not be easy. But, in the end, it will be worth it. Or at least I hope so. Maybe that’s what year 26 will be for.
It’s weird to me that I’m turning 26. 25 I could see, but somehow, making it past the halfway through my 20’s is so very odd to me. I think it is because this means I am no longer a young woman or even a child. I have now crossed the threshold into full fledged adulthood.
And that is too weird. Well, can’t knock it ’til I try it.